Downside to interracial dating
Though mixed couples are often scrutinized and put under great pressure from their families and society, the trend of intermarriage will continue to grow and have a very positive affect on the families formed. Miller, an Asian woman, introduced her Caucasian boyfriend Jim to her family, she said, “He [her father] shook Jim’s hand and grunted while looking away when they were introduced.For the most part, parents of mixed couples do not accept inter-racial and inter-religious relationships, or are at least hesitant about the idea at first. At dinner, he ignored Jim completely, speaking only in Chinese to my aunt (who, incidentally, was surprised to discover he could even speak Chinese)” (Miller 80).Not all couples receive pressure this extreme from society, but any pressure put on an intermarriage couple could be damaging to a relationship.
His behavior is understandable considering his past encounters with whites, and this is one of the reasons parents are apprehensive about intermarriage.He says, “That’s a lesson Karen Kildare, a black university recruiting director in Lincoln, Nebraska, learned firsthand when she brought home her college boyfriend, a white guy from an Iowa fanning family.‘My dad said he was worried I’d become the family’s servant,’ she says.Without their parents support, a marriage between Jim and Ella will be very difficult.Kyle Spencer also reports about parental disapproval of mixed couples.
The hatred between the two different religions is intense, which makes it extremely difficult for the couple to live even remotely comfortably.